I often think of the World War II slogan that was posted as a warning in factories that manufactured ships, ammunitions and supplies: "Loose Lips Sink Ships." With the battle for the family being what it is today, perhaps we need to post a similar warning on our refrigerators: "Loose Lips Sink Partnerships.""Unwholesome" literally means "rotten." When something is rotten, there's no mistaking it, is there? Similarly, when a rotten word is spoken, it stinks up the place. Instantly. The foulest-smelling words are negative ones, fueled with anger and aimed at another person.
Instead of smelling up the place with unwholesome talk, Paul says we should say only that which is helpful and uplifting, according to the needs of those who listen. For example, my wife, Barbara, often feels emotionally empty after orchestrating trips to the dentist, doctor, lessons and meetings, plus all the draining conflicts that take place in a family of eight. She doesn't need me to criticize her for what she hasn't done. She needs me to be on her team, cheering her on and expressing appreciation for juggling all that she does for the kids, the ministry and me.
Occasionally we'll use the dinner table to have a "Praise Mom Party." Each of us will take turns expressing appreciation and encouragement all around the table. Our teenage boys brag, "I like Mom because she cooks good food and a lot of it!" Our youngest will chirp, "I like Mom because she's pretty." Another will say, "I like Mom because she helps me with my homework." Without exception, when we've finished our praise party Barbara's countenance has brightened and her shoulders have straightened!
How about having some words with a positive aroma at your house tonight? Pick a family member and build him or her up by sharing what you most appreciate about him or her.