June 16, 2008
Our Father, Who art in
Heaven
by Sarah Jennings, Crosswalk.com Family Editor
I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. John 14:
18
For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and
sister and mother. Mt 12: 50
This Father’s Day weekend was a special one for friends of
our family. Just days before, they received the call all prospective adoptive
parents dream of: a mother had chosen them to be the parents of her child. I
can only imagine the mix of emotions that came with that call -- not only for
this young couple taking on the joys and trials of parenthood but also the
mother making this difficult sacrifice out of love for her child
While some don’t fully appreciate the nature of adoption –
some cultures even see it as taboo, preferring the orphanage system – I am
always a bit fascinated with hearing the perspective of those who became
parents through the adoption process. It seems adoptive parents almost unanimously
express the feeling that this child is their very own. Just as God doesn’t make
mistakes in giving a certain biological child to parents, many adoptive parents
express the belief that God created their adopted child especially for their
family, too.
Even if parenthood by adoption may be hard to grasp for those
who’ve never experienced it, adoption should make sense to Christians because
it offers one of the clearest pictures of the Gospel in our fallen world.
I’ve always marveled a bit at the fact that family is
central to Scripture from the very beginning. God Himself exists as the first
Family: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. And, He clearly created us to enjoy the
intimacy of family life with Him and with each other. But our first parents,
Adam and Eve, instead became prodigals as they broke away from God’s plans for
family life to forge their own way.
After centuries of sin and struggle, a noteworthy adoptive father arrives on the scene.
A devout Jewish man faces an unbelievable situation: the holy woman he loves is
pregnant and claims she is carrying God’s Son. It takes a divinely-inspired dream for him to accept this news (understandably so), but then he throws himself
into the task of being a model father, risking life and limb to protect his
wife and son. Thanks to Joseph’s fatherly commitment, Jesus goes on to bridge
the chasm sin caused so long ago.
Joseph isn’t the only adoptive parent worth mentioning,
though. Thanks to the Father’s willingness to give up His Son – not unlike the sacrifice a biological mother
experiences when surrendering her child for adoption - you and I now are
adopted sons and daughters of God, with the privilege of calling the Father, our Father.
There is one difference between earthly adoption and
adoption into the Divine Family, though – a difference I recently stumbled
across in a book a Benedictine monk named Columba Marmion wrote called Christ, the Life of the Soul. Marmion,
whose beautiful writings on the subject earned him the title “Doctor of Divine Adoption," explained
that while earthly adoption unites a family in every way except biology, divine
adoption goes even deeper. That’s because while our family relationships are
natural, God is supernatural. Adoption in Christ transforms our souls – and at
the end of time, our bodies, too - so that we truly become God’s children,
heirs of His kingdom and sharers in eternal life with the Holy Trinity.
I think it’s easy to forget this last part. So often, I
identify more with the prodigal daughter or the lost orphan than the privileged
daughter loved by the Heavenly Father. I focus more on a past filled with the
brokenness of divorce, the wrongs I’ve committed, or the wrongs my Christian siblings have committed than the peace that can be found in acknowledging and living as God's beloved child.
The good news is that, bit
by bit, God helps us acclimate to our new family, our new identity in Him. Just
as a loving parent would never dream of abandoning their child, God promises us
He will never leave us as orphans. And even those who never knew a loving
family in this life have a “forever home” to look forward to in eternity.
Intersecting Faith & Life: Our Deacon likes to refer to the earthly family,
through biology or adoption, as God’s “school of love” or the “domestic church”
because family life prepares us for eternal life with the Father and our
brothers and sisters in Christ. This week, strive to do two things: change one
thing, even if it’s small, in your family routine that will contribute to each
family member’s growth in Christ. And, contribute one thing – even if it’s just
pocket change – towards a crisis pregnancy center or adoption ministry to help
a child find a forever home that will lead them forever Home.
Further Reading
'Father to the Fatherless' -- Jan Coates and Rebekah Montgomery
Why We Run from the Father -- Whitney Hopler